Sometimes I like to look up definitions to get a clearer understanding of what something means, and sometimes I gain additional insight with the extra definitions. So I looked up the definition of reconcile, and found the following:
"Restore friendly relations between."
I like this because it kind of implies that there is a discrepancy, and it is resolved. Applying this to the scripture saying to reconcile yourselves to the will of God, I thought about the natural man, which is an enemy to God. If we put aside the natural man, we can let our will fall into alignment with God's. And let me tell you, it's so much easier to do the will of God when it is our will too.
Another definition I found: "Cause to coexist in harmony; make or show to be compatible"
This one was kind of interesting because I was wondering if this applied, and I think it does. It implies that our will doesn't have to be the SAME as God's, but it has to be in harmony or compatible with His will. This coordinates very nicely with a previous comment about our freedom to choose, and how precious that opportunity and ability is. It makes sense that He wouldn't require or force our will to be exactly the same.
And of course, you don't talk about reconciling anything without thinking about it from an accounting perspective. The lining up to make sure everything is in order and accounted for. There is no part of our will that is out of alignment with God's. They are aligned to the penny.
So our will needs to align with God's will, meaning that we want what He wants. When we get to this point, we no longer act in a way that opposes God or His commandments, because again, we want what God wants. Another way to look at it is that we trust God enough that even though our desires are for one thing to happen, we know He has a bigger plan for us. And we can surrender what we want and be willing to accept whatever God gives us because of it.
I also love how Jacob throws in the last bit that even when our will is reconciled to God's, it is still only through the grace of God that we are saved. We need to remember that we can't do it without Him.